The Key Metric in Making Change

The best advice I heard and verified in my own life is the following for quitting something.

Keep quitting until you have quit.

Step 1:

Decide that you are going to make a change. You know without a shred of doubt that it is bad for you.

Step 2:

Never doubt the decision.

Step 3: (if needed)

If you fail, repeat steps 1 and 2.

How To Track Your Way to Success!

The only metric I would suggest you track is the amount of time (mins, hours, days, weeks) that passes until your restart.

If you can shorten this time you are on the path to success.

If you ignore the fact you are off course then you are heading in the wrong direction.

The hardest part is to not ignore the truth that you have committed too.

Ignoring a problem can feel good in the moment but it delays the pain. We all know this.

When I wanted to stop drinking alcohol, and I would drink again, I stopped worrying about how many failures happened and I focused on starting again.

I would restart my journey.

It took me about 3 years.

The last time I opened a beer I took one sip and I threw the rest away. That was my last drink.

Your Friend.


Resources for Sobriety

Normies drink.

People who do not drink have a “drinking problem”

Read that again and think about that.

People that abstain for drinking alcohol – a drug – a poison – are the ones with the problem?

I do not make light of this but to highlight that if you are looking at your relationship with alcohol and want to make some changes there are resources here to explore besides AA.

Resources for Sobriety – Tempest – Holly Whitaker

Move towards healing.

Holly Whitaker

If I can be of help to you, let me know.

Thinking About Alcohol in 2021

I have been sober for a little over 2 years. I did not have a “rock bottom” moment but I did feel like I was living inside of the movie “Ground Hog Day”. I hoped for change but I ended up repeating the same patterns over and over.

You might have woke up thinking about drinking less in 2021 or taking a break or whatever. You had thoughts about your relationship with alcohol.

It is difficult enough dealing with an addictive substance in your own mind. It becomes even more difficult when our culture makes alcohol a binary decision. “Normies” drink. The weirdo’s who have a personal problem do not.

How is it possible we have allowed our culture to stigmatize doing something that is clearly healthy for ourselves? – Not drinking a poison.

As I was making this video – “How to Start Your Sobriety Journey in 2021” I was adding notes to it and googled “Holly Whitaker” – the all around bad ass who wrote “Quit Like a Woman”. And instead of finding links to Holly’s site I find out that Chrissy Teigen broke the internet by announcing that she has been sober for 4 weeks. Friend gave her Holly’s book. The LA Times did a story about it.

I cannot express how much more I like my life without alcohol.

I am here to help and to talk if you need me.